3 Ways to Stop The Comparison Bug
What a year friends! 2021 has taught us a lot. One thing Social Media can do is give you a case of the comparison bug. I mean we all are trained to share the highlights and many of us don’t share the lows. What is the comparison bug? It’s when doubt starts to creep in when you see others doing things you should or want to be doing too. Deep down inside we don’t want to feel like we aren’t doing what we need to do to provide for ourselves. The pressure in today’s society is so so heavy. If you’re not making 6 figures or driving the nicest ride, you’re average? Well I’m here to say balling on a budget is NOT bad. I wanted to share 3 ways to STOP the comparison bug.
Look Yourself in The Mirror
Look yourself in the mirror and understand you are YOU. You are not that person you may compare yourself to. You don’t know what silent battles they may have fought and still fighting. That’s the little thief in your head saying well if they can do it, so can I. WRONG! Yes, you can do whatever you put your mind to but everyone has their own mission in this world. We are in a whole panorama and if all you did this year was make it to the next day, then you did good enough.
I look up to a lot of people for inspiration and will admit there has been times when I’ve compared myself as well. We are human it’s in our nature. Someone will always have more, say more, and do more. What if that’s just not your lane? I remember being in bible study one day and they said how most times our parents’ prayers become our lives. That hit me deep because I’m sure my mom prayed for everything I have now. Your blessings are YOUR blessings!
Just remember to look yourself in the mirror and remind yourself WHO you are WHOSE you are. No matter how many times we try to change our outer appearance or the amount of work we do daily, it should be good enough for us. Don’t get me wrong everyone should achieve success but don’t compare it to someone else’s timeline.
Forgive Yourself
Most times I have to do this daily. I know it’s me who can create little dramas in my head. So I need to hold myself accountable and understand that it’s always room for improvement. In example, my weight. I have never been this size in my life. So what will I do to change it? Change my mindset first. So I started with changing my feed around to make sure I don’t see anyone I can compare myself to. It’s all about how you use social media. I had a plastic surgeon follow me and boy I had all types of dreams of getting surgery. I had to snap back and say this is not me. (No shade to anyone who chooses this route). I personally don’t want to take that route right now.
I have to forgive that girl in the mirror and understand that I’m no longer Antoinette in college or before kids. I have 3 little humans running around that I birthed and I have to meet myself where I’m at. This should be the same for you. Forgive yourself and understand that possibilities are endless when you understand it’s YOU vs YOU.
Believe in Yourself
This is easier said than done right? We see all the motivational gurus say all I did was believe in myself. Yes, they believed in themselves and they also did some inside work to get them to where they are. Most times a lot of successful people have been handed bad cards all their lives until they got the right one. The key was they kept going and believed in themselves. As we should too. We don’t have the same 24 hours as Beyonce. She has a TEAM of people to help her BE Beyonce. Meanwhile you’re comparing yourself once again. Give yourself grace. When it’s the right time to shine, you’ll shine. Set tangible goals and believe that you can accomplish them. Don’t be stingy with time. Again we are in a pandemic. Things you could probably do 3 years ago may take a little more time and that’s ok.
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I pray you’re able to fight the little comparison bug and keep doing what God put you on this earth to do, be YOU. We need your originality. Do you like newsletters? Get a weekly newsletter from me. I promise I will not spam you! Subscribe here If you’re not, Follow me on Instagram and Facebook.
Xoxo,
Antoinette F-M
— Meet Antoinette —
God fearing Wife, Mother of 3, Social Media Manager, and Blogger. Blogs about her passion with social media, journey through motherhood and wifehood, sharing her testimonies, and honest product reviews.
